What are you looking for?​

If you’re looking for Bereavement Counselling or for Shamanic Healing to heal your wounds then you’ve arrived at a good place, as these form the core of my healing work. I help people find themselves again after any kind of bereavement.

 

Major loss turns our lives upside down, leaving us without the usual compass points to help us find our way in life. While bereavement may be the general term for this experience, you may have other words you use to describe it.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”

Lao Tzu, Chinese Philosopher

Susan Hollins | Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

Bereavement Counsellor and  Shamanic Healer in Exeter, Devon

Susan Hollins | Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

May I help you?​

The golden threads in my healing work are Bereavement Counselling and Shamanic Healing. In different yet related ways each restores us to health after loss of any kind. Choosing one of these healing threads – Bereavement Counselling or Shamanic Healing – doesn’t prevent you from choosing the other later on. Shamanic Healing can be an integral part of Bereavement Counselling.

 

Feeling lost, feeling bereft, can cause us to feel that we’re no longer fully present, as if part of us has disappeared. We may become more distressed because we don’t know how or where to look for this lost part.

 

I can help you find the lost parts of yourself, however they came to be lost in the first place.

How can I find my lost pieces?

Your Bereavement Counselling will be tailored to your needs based on weekly appointments of an hour in length. Bereavement Counselling helps us rework some of our life’s tapestry which may include earlier losses which have been hidden away yet whose effects we still feel. Your Bereavement Counselling with me will provide ample opportunities for such re-working. There’ll also be opportunities for you to consider how you’ll shape your life tapestry in the future as your Bereavement Counselling comes to its natural end.

How can I find my lost pieces?
Susan Hollins | Bereavement Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

An appointment for Shamanic Healing requires time, so I usually allocate at least two hours for this. Shamanic Healing has several elements: soul retrieval; Power Animal retrieval; Ancestral Healing; removal of spiritual blockages. A Healing may address one or more of these elements, depending on your needs.

Bereavement Counselling

Shamanic Healing

Susan Hollins | Bereavement Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

​Unseasonal

​It feels odd to be writing a Blog about loss when the weather is hot, sunny and distinctly Mediterranean. It feels out of place, like being a 'party-pooper' or hearing about the end of a gripping TV programme before you've had chance to watch any of it. It feels deeply unseasonal, out of step, wrong, in poor taste... But loss, grief, bereavement, sorrow and all their friends and associates are no respecters of persons, or of seasons. They fold, curl and lodge themselves into and among our holiday luggage. They leap out at us from the breakfast cereal packet, as we're taking a shower or as we're meandering along the aisle of the local shop wondering what to buy for dinner....  Loss, grief, bereavement, sorrow and all their friends and associates don't abide by custom and practice: they disrupt them instead. Like coming home and discovering that you've been burgled: the thieves having ransacked all your cupboards, and emptied the contents of your bedrooms drawers and wardrobe all over the floor. They've stolen your treasures (along with some of the practical things which you can replace more easily) and left you with all the mess.   

Why don't you have another​?

Did you have a pet when you were growing up? I had a beautiful Chinchilla rabbit whom I called Benjamin (of course!). My Father showed me how to care for him, and to clean out his hutch every week.  Benjamin loved eating garden flowers and one day, he ate too many of a particular flower. The next morning, I found Benjamin dying in his hutch. Later that day we buried him in the garden among the flowers he loved to eat.  After Benjamin died I did not keep another Rabbit until my own children were given Rabbits to care for. I remembered Benjamin for who he was, beautiful, lovely, and for being my first, and therefore very special, furry friend. I didn’t ask for another Rabbit after Benjamin died, and no-one asked me if I’d like one. I was glad that no-one asked or said to me that I could have another Rabbit just as soon as we could find one. It’s quite common for dog owners to go looking for a new dog once their faithful dog has gone (through death, theft, accident). I’ve known people become owners of a new dog within a day or two of their other dog dying. Some people find this the best way they know to deal with their loss and grief by transferring their love for the old dog to a new dog. I’ve never been able to do this. My family and I have loved and adored several Labrador dogs. Our first Labrador, Hugo, died when he was 13. After he died I went crying, and howling, through the house. As the days went by the house felt empty, cold. A couple of months after Hugo’s death we did bring a Labrador puppy home, but he was never a replacement for our beloved Hugo who, like all dogs, was unique. Hugo was not, in any way, replaced by his successor. To this day we remember Hugo for himself, as we do each of our dogs. When we replace the loss, we fill the gaping hole left by the loss with something or someone else, but we don’t grieve. How many people do you know who, after the break-up of a long-term relationship, return to the Dating scene as soon as possible? How many people do you know who embark on new long-term relationships without doing the hard slog of the grief work following the death of the earlier relationship? How many people do you know who, following the death of their partner, have been told ‘Well, you’re young enough to find someone else’… or ‘There’s plenty more fish in the sea…’ or, worse, have been told that they ‘could find someone better…’? How many people do you know who’ve experienced the death of their baby or their young child? And can you guess how often these parents have been told, ‘Well, you can always have another’… or, ‘you’re still young enough to have another baby…’ It seems as if it’s our human instinct to rush in and tell someone who’s deep in grief that he or she can ‘go and get another one’, as if by doing just this, all the painful feelings and experiences of the loss of their partner, their baby, their child, their pet…will be erased, and their emotional system returned to the default mode of everything, or pretty much everything, being alright thank you. When we’re told that we ‘can always have/ get another….’ it has several interpretations: It’s a very limiting statement. By focussing on the future, it fails to acknowledge the reality of the past and the present It’s one of those lines that people use when they’re trying to be helpful… but failing. It’s a common throw-away line used by people who’ve probably had it said to them, so it’s used without thinking. It minimises the enormity of our loss. The person may be unwilling and / or unable to recognise and accept the depth of our feelings of loss It’s a ‘stop-gap’ line for someone who doesn’t know what else to say. On hearing this how might we feel? Angry, full of rage! How can anyone dare suggest that I can ‘always find someone else’…have another baby… get a dog just like the one who’s died of old age after being with us for 14 years…get a home just like the one that’s been destroyed by fire, by flood, by bombs… which we worked so hard to build and to shape? Isolated with our experience and with our feelings Silenced. Isn’t this person listening to me? My baby, my partner, my pet….has died and s/he’s suggesting that I go and find another one! Wounded. I was feeling ghastly before I heard this, now I feel worse, and more hurting than ever. Misunderstood. Doesn’t this person know how special, adored, important….my partner, my baby, my pet, my home, my job… was to me? Diminished… my experience isn’t big enough, serious enough, to grab their genuine attention. Does any of this ring true for you?​

...
...

Thoughts & Reflections

What People Say...

 

 

The first step is a 30 minute chat on the 'phone so that we can get a feel of how the land lies, and we'll take it from there.

Step by step together

Bereavement Counselling (embracing all types of loss) provides the safe space in which you can explore your loss and its impact on you. The Bereavement Counselling I provide will be as unique to you as your bereavement is unique to you. Bereavements can’t be compared, as if one bereavement is more worthy of attention than another. Through your Bereavement Counselling with me, you’ll have time to reflect on your memories, your experience - what might have been, what was, what is – and begin to create a new life for yourself which will include a refashioned relationship with the person (the place... your pet... your health... your job...) at the heart of your bereavement.

Bereavement Counselling

Shamanic Healing is rooted in Shamanism which teaches us about the web of life, how everything is connected, and about the Great Spirit which lives in all things. Shamanism encourages us to live in balanced and harmonious ways, with ourselves, with others, and with our environments. It’s a spiritual thing! Shamanic Healing may include one or more of these forms: Soul Retrieval, Power Animal Retrieval, the removal of spiritual blockages, and Ancestral Healing. Shamanic Healing is about the restoration of energy, of spirit, to a person, and the reinstatement of balance in body, mind and spirit If you’re struggling with physical and/or mental illness; if you feel that you’re not the person you were; if you feel without energy, purpose; if you feel that you’re only half alive, deeply out of balance, then I’d like to offer Shamanic Healing as a means of restoring these essential elements to you

Shamanic Healing

Susan Hollins Counselling

The golden threads in my healing work are Bereavement Counselling and Shamanic Healing. In different yet related ways each restores us to health after loss of any kind. Choosing one of these healing threads – Bereavement Counselling or Shamanic Healing – doesn’t prevent you from choosing the other later on. Shamanic Healing can be an integral part of Bereavement Counselling.

Feeling lost, feeling bereft, can cause us to feel that we’re no longer fully present, as if part of us has disappeared. We may become more distressed because we don’t know how or where to look for this lost part.

 

I can help you find the lost parts of yourself, however they came to be lost in the first place.

"I have found your help so useful that I don't want to risk jeopardising it in any way. I very much appreciate all you have done. As you know, I didn't want to come and see you but I'm so pleased I did. Your kindness and understanding have been invaluable"

 

The Course..."got me to think about all the different types of loss & reflect on situations where the issues the person was experiencing could have been due to loss..."

 

"I will change my questioning and listening approach and stop using the standard phrases..."

What did you enjoy most about the Course? "The Facilitator and her knowledge."

 

" Susan is very engaging and clear....good information about the theories of loss..."

 

The Course..."made me rethink some of my previous beliefs around grief..."

 

The Course..."prompted me to re-evaluate how I work..."

Susan Hollins Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

About me

I’ve taken a long time to arrive at this point. There have many twists and turns along the track. Sometimes I’ve been in the desert, surviving on bread and raisins, drinking ice-clear water. At other times I’ve feasted and made plump with happiness.

Send Message

Name:

This field is required.

Thank You!

The form has been successfully sent.

Phone:

This field is required.

Email:

This field is required.

Message:

This field is required.

Website by GFIVEDESIGN

Contact me

Susan Hollins
Susan Hollins

Tel: 07918 671476  Email: susan@susanhollins.co​