Bereavement Counselling gives us a safe, confidential space in which our grief is allowed and encouraged to unfurl itself from our heart, mind, body, spirit. It’s hard work. With the wise companionship, skill and encouragement of a Bereavement Counsellor we’re able to shed the burden of our grief, find healing through this, and be rewarded with renewed energy for life.



While Bereavement Counselling is a great resource to help us work through our grief after the death of someone close to us, it can also be used to help us come to terms with other sorts of losses.  Bereavement Counselling can help with such things as the loss of your job through redundancy or being sacked; the loss of a relationship when you’ve split up with someone; the loss of your Pet, the loss of the home you love but which you have to leave.


Bereavement Counselling is very effective after the first 2 – 3 months of bereavement, following the immediate shock of the loss and at a point when we (and others) might think that we should be further on than we are (what’s that all about?) or dealing with this loss better than we feel that we’re doing. 


Many of us carry long-buried grief, grief that's been pushed down, out of sight, mind, feeling, until the day when our inner dam wall begins to crack and the grief seeps out, runs, floods.... Then, Bereavement Counselling provides not only a strong life-jacket in the first instance to keep your head above the waters, but later on, also a sturdy boat equipped with all mod cons of emotional resources to help you navigate any future flood waters.



We might believe that Bereavement Counselling is just for the ‘emotionally flaky’ (not me!) and certainly not for people like me...who’ve always coped with just about everything else that life has given us, so why not this?


So! Is Bereavement Counselling for you?  Why not take a look at these examples? Do any describe how things are for you?


  • You’re bottling up your feelings and under pressure (possibly from others, possibly just from yourself) to seem to be getting on better with your grieving than you are. Who’s judging?
  • Your feelings are all bottled up, you know they’re there, but you find it hard to connect with your emotions or even to cry.
  • Your loss happened a long time ago, but you’ve never really recovered.
  • You feel stuck in your grieving, going around in circles in your emotions and thoughts, returning again and again to the day your loss occurred, and how it came about.
  • You’re feeling increasingly isolated with and in your grief. People have stopped asking about you.  You feel that everyone else is getting on with their life while you feel stuck in a pit of grief and don't know how to get out of it.
  • You feel angry that people are getting on with their lives because you just want everything to stop and acknowledge your loss: “Stop all the clocks...” (“Funeral Blues” by WH Auden)
  • You feel angry with yourself for not being able to ‘deal with my grief better.’ You feel that you ‘should be strong’ when you feel weak, bowed down.
  • You keep yourself very busy to avoid having to feel much and to deal with your distress.
  • Your sleeping, eating, and drinking habits are all out of kilter. You no longer know which way is up.


If any of these examples rings a bell for you, instead of ‘just getting on with it’ (treading the hard grief road stoically) or ‘putting on a brave face’ why not take another look at Bereavement Counselling? It could be one of the best things you’ve ever done.

Susan Hollins Counselling, Life Coaching, Shamanic Healing in Exeter, Devon​

I’ve taken a long time to arrive at this point. There have been many twists and turns along the track. Sometimes I’ve been in the desert, surviving on bread and raisins, drinking ice-clear water. At other times I’ve feasted and  been made plump with happiness.

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